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A Remarkable Year?

I liken our 6th birthday to being awarded 2nd runner up.

Sure it’s something, it’s just not…remarkable.

I mean, 5 years in business felt like a landmark, but six? Six is just…six.

My husband of 18 years and I split this past year. Now, that’s something remarkable.

Significant. Life-changing.

Personally, my year was remarkable. Professionally, honestly, it was a bit of a blur.

I remember on several occasions lying flat on my back in the middle of the cookie kitchen floor, just to feel grounded. I did it so I could feel that I was on this earth and breathing. I did it to start with what I knew for sure, because there was so much that was in transition this year, so much I didn’t know.

By now, I do know Cookie Text. It was just what I needed: consistent, steady, and distracting.  When I’m doing my thing in the kitchen, I get to think about all sorts of good stuff, like who is getting the cookie I am decorating, the funny messages, a nice review we got on the website, or how good cookie dough tastes…all great things. Especially when I’d  thought so much about hard stuff that I was weary.

One thing was tricky: I am so used to the growth mindset with Cookie Text, I had to coach myself a few times this year that holding steady was okay. This year just needed to be consistent and stable. My true focus had  to be on the boys and me, and I just needed to not lose ground with the business.

It was a hard thing to accept that I couldn’t do it all at once. It wasn’t hard to figure out what was most important.

One day this summer, despite my self-coaching, I felt like I was failing at Cookie Text. That afternoon the two younger boys and their friends asked me to take them on an outing. We were out and about for several hours and the boys and I had a great time.

It was just the reminder I needed:

Cookie Text has always allowed me to be the mom I want to be. Any time over the past six years that the boys wanted or needed me to be available or I wanted to be present, I could be. That will always be way more valuable to me than our sales figures or web traffic stats.

While it was a rocky year personally, I look back and think we still had an awesome year of Cookie-texting:

  • Even though the cookie kitchen moved, we never missed a day of deliveries.
  • Even though the kitchen was not set up ideally, we still had a record-setting Valentine’s Day.
  • Even though I was very sad at times, Cookie Text consistently brought me great joy.
  • Even though I might have neglected to send a newsletter reminder, you all still ordered.

Cookie Text was a companion on this journey. And a fun and reliable companion at that.

Now it’s time for me to get back in the driver’s seat and lead this business to it’s full potential.

In the coming year the oldest will be off to college, the middle son driving,  and the youngest will be in high school. I don’t believe this timing is an accident.  As my active-mom role shrinks, my cookie-lady role will grow. Just as I need to dedicate more time to the business, the universe seems to be handing it to me.

I find great joy in Cookie-texting, in mothering, and in just being me. The year’s personal journey was tough, but I have reached the clearing where I can feel the sun on my face and see the beautiful view.

I’m excited about the coming year, and look forward to having more attention to pay to the business. I’m grateful for all that this company is and has been for me. I am grateful for all of you.

By some unexplainable internal process I translate your affection for this company into love, and that love helped see me through.

You are all a very good kind of remarkable.

So cheers to six years, what-daya say we make us a national franchise by 10;)?!

Let’s do this!

 

 

 

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Cookies and Contempt: A Bad Week

Ruined Cookie Dough

Between a huge ruined batch of chocolate chip cookie dough, a chronically late employee, and no air conditioning, we simply couldn’t catch a break last week.

Things I already knew:

  1. There is a HUGE difference between Baking Soda and Baking Powder.
  2. It’s not the heat, it’s the humidity.
  3. Most teenagers could sleep until noon if you let them.

Things I learned:

  1. Some CookieText-ing mistakes have a domino effect…
  2. Even dripping buckets of perspiration, I still love my job.
  3. Have the home phone number or the number of a relative, because teens usually mute their phones.

Between tossing pounds and pounds of unusable dough, fighting frosting that was getting softer from the heat by the minute, and sitting on hold with the A/C people for hours on end, I was happy to just put the week behind us.

Cookie soup
A do-over…the first one melted…

And so goes real life. Sometimes there are crappy days, sometimes there are crappy weeks. But I think just like relationships with people, you need to have a job that is more good than bad.

John Gottman, the marriage expert, talks about contempt in a marriage. Contempt is fueled by long-term negative thoughts about your relationship. Being disrespectful, sarcastic, or using hostile-humor are forms of contempt.  Gottman says contempt is the biggest predictor of divorce and that people in contemptuous marriages are more likely to suffer infectious sicknesses, like a cold or the flu.

I think his theories on contempt in a marriage apply just as well as someone’s relationship with their employment.

Ask yourself:

Do you spend more time thinking negative or positive thoughts about your job?

Are you in a bad mood throughout your workday?

Do you roll your eyes when you get yet another email from your boss/co-worker/corporate?

Do you talk badly about your employer, fellow employees or place of employment?

Are there more bad days than good days?

Or:

Are you in a workplace where, sure there is stress, but most the time things are good?

You generally enjoy your job, the people you work with, and when there is a bad day, you know it will pass?

Is there more good than bad?  There should be.

For me, even with a really crappy week, I knew I genuinely loved my job and that it was worth suffering through the annoyances. There is always more good than bad. I feel good about what I do. I have an underlying peace and satisfaction throughout my workday. I feel productive and generally happy while I work.

Are you in a conflict with your job? Life is too short to spend 40 hours a week in contempt. And that stuff seeps out into other parts of your life…a lot.

Maybe you need a change. Why not now? And if not now, when? And if you do have a million and one reasons why you have to keep the job you hate, can you change your attitude or approach, one thing at a time?

For me, a crappy week in the Cookie kitchen is still better than a good week doing anything else. I’m very lucky and blessed to have a job I love. So much so that I want the very same for you. Here’s hoping that you go to a job you love each day. And if you don’t do that now, hopefully you will very soon.

 

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